Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Day 11- Trying to Be Serious

I broke up with my boyfriend of over 3yrs. Yes, I did the breaking up. I did it and I am the one that ended up "broken." Shouldn't it be the other way around??? Shouldn't he be breaking? Didn't I break his heart?
They say that men show their pain in a different way. He shows it by not having any. Ok, that's a lie. He is hurting, I know that. I just don't understand how his pain is so different.
I want to ask him things. I want to ask him if he thinks I'm bluffing. I want to ask him if he feels relieved. I want to ask him... I want to ask him why I'm not worth fighting for. I want to know why he couldn't just look me in the eyes and say, "No. No, we are not breaking up because I love you and I want to make this work." Instead, he just sat back and said, "if that will make you happy." Bull!
Make me happy?!?! Make ME happy? If he is so worried about my happiness, why hasn't he tried to be the one that makes me happy.
In an effort to convince not only him, but myself that I am, in fact, not bluffing I am not going to call him tonight. I am not going to text him to say goodnight. I am not going to write him a facebook message. I am not going to make contact. I am trying to be serious.

5 comments:

  1. What you have to ask yourself is, did I break up with him for a good reason? And if u did, u have to be strong. I was with my husband for 7 years and it took all my mite to let go and stay gone. But I'm much happier now. If you need to talk get ahold of me. My blog is nolie0804.blogspot.com
    keep your head up.

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  2. wish you the best,

    your happiness shouldnt depend on someone else, behappy for YOU

    why did you break up with him?

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  3. Don't communicate with him. It is over.Move on. Enjoy your life.

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  4. Thanks, everyone.

    I broke it off because I don't see any signs of commitment and it's driving me mad.

    I hope that you're right. I want to be happy, I just never thought that I would have to try that without him. I didn't find my happiness IN him, I found it WITH him. :(

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  5. do you want to be in a relationship with him?

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